Many people are smart enough to succeed in their life and career, but make the mistake of blaming their failures on some personal quality that they cannot control.
Dr Travis Bradberry, co-author of the bestselling book Emotional Intelligence 2.0, believes that successful people overcome problems because, when they face barriers, they treat them as challenges.
In an article for networking site LinkedIn, Dr Bradberry points out seven things that people easily see as personal failures.
Don’t let your age define you. If you are young, you may be told you lack experience. If you are older, people may say your skills are out of date. Find what you need to carry out your ambitions, without judging yourself by age.
When things go wrong, or slowly, just use your time differently. Work on what you can, with an eye open for the later opportunity to return to the problem, or leave it behind for something better.
It is said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Don't surround yourself with people who don't support you, or worse, continually criticise and mock you.
There is a Western saying, “The onlooker sees most of the game.” However, the onlooker is not playing. There is also an Asian saying, “If the world was a man, opinions would be his fingernails.” Listen respectfully to opinions, because sometimes they can help, but never let them change your mind without question.
When you face a risk, ask yourself, what is the worst thing that can happen? Prepare for that, and there is nothing to fear.
Past and future
You can't make progress if you regret past mistakes, and fear you will repeat them in the future. Learn from mistakes, and think ahead.
It is easy to feel hopeless with all the troubles of the wider world. These are things you cannot control, but don't let them control you. Think only about the things you can do. Even in the worst wars, most people have been able to go on with daily life and even prosper.